Like most people, I thought that once we got married everything would magically fall into place. I imagined that our love alone would conquer all. The truth is, the only thing that changed was my last name, and the fact that we said our vows before God. Everything that we disagreed and argued about still lingered. While I was expecting unicorns and butterflies, we were literally “booting up,” (as my husband says before a game of Call of Duty) for war.
I’ll say out loud what no one else will, Marriage can at times be hard!!! Think about it, two people, from two different families, with different beliefs have to become as one. In every argument I felt like I was right and he was wrong, disregarding everything he said and he felt the same. Love does not come easy! It is something you have to really work hard to maintain.
Here are 5 of the most important things that helped our relationship…
5. Time apart
It is very important to not lose yourself in your mate. Keep healthy friendships, maintain your hobbies, and of course quiet time alone is always good.
“Let there be spaces in your togetherness, And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.”
Do not let insecurities ruin your relationship. Have faith in your mate.
3. Open mind
In order to compromise, you have to have an open mind. Listen and truly consider what the other person is saying or suggesting. You can’t be right all of the time.
2. Pride Check
You have to check your pride at the door. You will have to say, “I’m sorry” or, “You’re right,” more often than you think.
God is Love, without Him a great relationship is completely impossible. Pray about your relationship daily!
Be completely humble and gentle; be patient; bearing with one another in love.